Project Your Personality Through Good Behavior
-By PK Arya
What is personality after all? The outcome of ideas, beliefs and sentiments. Your character is formation of whatever opinion you have about yourself. It is possible that nature has not bestowed you with an impressive personality, but there is no doubt that you can make your personality great by your good behavior.
We are always dependant on each other whether it be at home, in office or in business circle. We are always in search of those qualities without which we find ourselves incomplete. We have to learn these qualities from others. Therefore, we must develop an attitude to look after others. It is a must for every individual to inculcate the feeling of friendship and togetherness. In the absence of these qualities even the most competent and capable person will be a pigmy and his personality will remain unimpressive.
A person who limits all his activities around his ‘self’ only, can never progress in live. If you wish to be recognized as a learned and successful person in the world, you have to do away with yourself, your ideas, your thought process to such an extent that the feeling of discrimination between ‘mine and your’ vanishes. It can be a stage when you realize in your thought, action and heart that the whole universe is one.
The man who is interested only in his own affairs and himself is never accepted by society. In other words this type of person is deprived of the sympathy of others. Such a person can neither exert any influence on society nor can his own personality be energetic and impressive. He casts a negative influence on people around him and so nobody wants to remain associated with such a person.
A person who is self centered and takes pride in self praise is isolated from society. Just as a branch from the trees dries up in the same way if an individual refrains from society he too become useless. His human qualities die, and his and support if he comes in contact with other people.
This fact can be understood in the words of famous Britain poet Rudyard Kipling in this way- “The strength of a wolf lies in his group,” character can not be developed in isolation. When we mix up with people we learn many things from them and in turn teach them many things. We can add to special attributes of our character only when we live among people. Just as a sharp stone becomes blunt and takes proper shape when it hits the other stones in the current of river, in the same way we can develop our innate qualities and capabilities when we can live in society and meet other people.
People often face failures in friendship, in marriage, in business, in career, in dealing, in employment just because they are unable to adjust with other people.
Good behavior and co-operation makes a man popular. As a result the possibilities of his progress and success increasingly multiply. The feeling of help and gratitude towards others not only adds to human qualities in a person but also increases his characteristic qualities.
Your success to a great extent depends on how you behave with others. It is rightly said that you should behave with others as you expect others to behave with you. The behavior of a person should be such that it spreads fragrance of love and affection all around so that tomorrow he too may experience similar feeling of oneness and sympathy from others.
Generally man by nature loves to live in society with co-operation. He realizes the need of family and society while moving on difficulty path of live. Man has to depend upon his companions for survival. The feeling of co-operation makes a man competent. In his competence lies his achievements and sense of satisfaction. The success of a person depends on the co-operation of his fellow beings and his relation with then.
Another quality of man’s personality is his ability to arrack. This is related to the need and necessity of his protection from others. It is only due to this reason that man faces
difficulty in co-operating with others. He can not tolerate if someone rebukes him or takes undue advantage of him. He does not allow anyone to come near him. This means that he is jealous and
All the mental obstructions can be overcome by inculcation the feeling of love and co-operation for others.
Twenty centuries ago, Saint Paul wrote a letter to evil minded people, in which he tried to explain a new point of view of love, He clarified through certain symbols that man can get rid of his aggressiveness with the help of love and co-operation.
Love is tolerant, it is kind and it is not jealous of others. Love is neither proud not arrogant, neither indecent not selfish, it does not easily get irritated. Love does not find with others. It does not rejoice in others faults, but feels elevated with truth. Love does not fear anyone. There is no limit of confidence, hope and tolerance which originates from love.
In every individual there is an inner desire and need for love. It is rightly said the love begets love. That is why when a person loves someone he comes to know his own importance and realizes that others also love and respect him. The need of love starts from childhood and develops in the company of friends and passes through the experiences of married life.
Once a couple went to an orphanage, they liked a child after taking him home they wanted to adopt him. They told the child that after taking him home they would give lots of things. Then the child said that if they could not provide him anything more than a good house, cloths, expensive toys the, he would rather prefer to stay on in the orphanage, Then the couple asked him—“What else do you want?” then the child replied- “ I want that someone should love me.”
You will be held in high esteem if you have respect tolerance, cooperation and love for others. So to achieve success in life we must always care for others. What is the hesitation in
giving love and respect? We are in fact giving something –not taking anything.
Just wake up and break the wall of separation and you will find that the whole universe is your own.